Since 1938, researchers at Harvard have been surveying participants every two years on the quality of their marriages, job satisfaction and social activities. Every five years, subjects’ physical health has been tracked. With that in mind, here are a few simple ideas for building healthier, long-lasting relationships:
Trade FaceTime for face time. Technology has promised to connect us, and it does in many ways. But it can also be a barrier to intimacy. Setting a few limits on tech, so you can truly connect with loved ones, is important.
Ask yourself one question. Whenever you have an important decision to make, ask yourself, “Is it good for my relationships?” For example, a better paying job may be financially good for you and your family, but it could require a heavy toll on your time, putting your relationships in the back seat. Consider this question carefully to help you clarify even the most difficult of decisions.
Schedule date nights … with a twist. Keep romance alive with scheduled date nights. Instead of going to the same place every time, alternate who plans the date. That way you can either share something you find fun, try something new, or better yet, come up with something you think your significant other would enjoy doing. Add a recurring reminder in your smartphone calendar, so this standing event doesn’t get lost in your busy schedule.
Friends and family in need. It’s important to communicate with loved ones who are elderly, in poor health or those you haven’t spoken with in a long time. You don’t have to give advice or do anything to “fix” situations. Showing up says enough. If physical distance is an issue, try calling rather than texting, emailing or using social media. Your voice can convey much more than an electronic communication. Like a good neighbor. Whether you volunteer for a school or non-profit, mentor someone, or regularly attend a place of worship or other civic organization, community can also be an important source of relationships to help you thrive and develop bonds that fulfill you, and serve others.